Talk to Me: I'm finding it difficult to work following a miscarriage

Psychologist Caroline Martin is here to answer your questions on whatever issues you are dealing with in life, from work pressure and stress to loneliness and grief

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I had a miscarriage six months ago and I'm finding it difficult to concentrate at work as a result. I was just eight weeks pregnant and dealt with the loss at home with the support of my GP. I didn't take time off work as I’m part of a busy committed team. I'm wondering if I made a mistake - all I can think of is the baby I lost.

My condolences on your loss. In many respects, the grief we experience after a miscarriage is like any other grief, yet it is also different. The statistics tell us that a significant percentage of women who experience miscarriage can develop symptoms akin to depression and anxiety. However, we must be careful not to attribute the symptoms to the miscarriage. New Zealand Minister Ginny Andersen rightly says, “The grief that comes with miscarriage is not a sickness. It is a loss.”