Talk To Me: My friend only calls me when there's a crisis 

Psychologist Caroline Martin is here to answer your questions on whatever issues you are dealing with in life, from work pressure and stress, to loneliness and grief

Over the course of a healthy friendship, it should all balance out

A friend of mine always rings me when she’s in a crisis. She’s polite and thanks me every time but the conversation is usually one-sided. It’s got to the point where I dread seeing her number coming up on my phone. We go back a long way and are in the same friend group, so I want to tread carefully. What would you suggest?

Adult friendships, and certainly those which have stood the test of years, tend to look like the intricate patterns of a kaleidoscope.