Talk To Me: I'm dreading my in-laws visiting over Christmas 

"Talk to your husband - be clear about the toll this takes on you and come up with a strategy together - have a code word you can use when you need him to step in on your behalf."

Grandchildren Greeting Grandparents As They Arrive With Presents To Celebrate Family Christmas

My parents-in-law are staying with us over Christmas, and already I'm dreading it. They are generous and kind but keep making what they think are helpful suggestions: how to manage the children, save money on shopping, and keep the garden in order. My husband says they are trying to be supportive. I usually nod and smile but it's difficult not to feel judged.

Holding it all in might give you indigestion, literally.  It may be easier to control how much rich food and alcohol you consume than regulate the many suggestions you are expected to accept graciously. All of this is exacerbated when the visit feels more like an obligation, and it sounds like this might be the case for you.