Sex File: My new man takes too long — I'm exhausted and struggling to keep up

If you make it into a big thing, you may unintentionally perpetuate the problem

Consider introducing a vibrator during foreplay; research has found it can help men in your boyfriend's situation.

I've recently started seeing a new man. This may be a rare complaint, but he takes much, much longer over sex than my previous partner. I'm struggling to keep up. Have you got any advice?

You don't say how long your boyfriend takes, so it is difficult to know how serious the problem is.