Sex File: He acts like a robot in bed 

"When you first get together with a new partner, it is natural to do what you know..."

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My new boyfriend takes a formulaic approach to our sex life. He knows one way to give me an orgasm so sticks to that route every time. If I try to switch things up he seems uncomfortable and we end up back in the same old routine. I don't know how to help him to be less robotic and more spontaneous.

Sex with a new partner can be a little like learning to swim. The first time you get in the water and can stay afloat by doing doggy paddle it is an absolute joy, but learning to swim properly is a nightmare. You have to unlearn everything you did naturally, in order to learn how to swim effectively. It's the same with sex.