Richard Hogan: My kids see me as the bad cop and want to live with their dad

I don’t like the person I’m turning into. Please help me before I lose my children

Richard Hogan: "The fact that your partner met someone else and started a new life is a traumatic experience for you and your children."

I read your articles every week and always find them helpful and practical. Please can you give me some advice? 

I’m a 44-year-old mother of three. I separated from my partner in 2020 and things have been very difficult.