Sex File: She wants scheduled sex every Saturday morning

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Q. My wife and I decided to timetable sex for Saturday mornings. It worked at first, but now I find it a turn-off thinking that we might be having sex for the sake of it - maintenance sex. I'd rather have sex less often and know that when it happens it's going to feel exciting. 

A. Prescriptive scheduling may not be the best way to go about it, because doing the same thing, at the same time, tends to get boring, however you and your wife are right about creating a dedicated space for sex in your lives. In an ideal world all couples would want sex at the same time, and commitments, children and getting the dinner on the table would stand aside to facilitate spontaneous lovemaking.