The wrong attitude
This is Ireland where the ”ah sure god help him” attitude when caught trying to buy sex from a guard prevails, and the same attitude prevails when the same kind of put-upon male gets caught for drunk-driving. If he is exposed as having hit his wife the attitude is “she probably deserved it”.
It’s an attitude of pity for the poor male trying to have a bit of ”fun” and sure, wouldn’t they leave him alone?