Woman messaged friend she accused of rape: 'Drink is no excuse, you're dead to me'

Kerry rape trial commences at Central Criminal Court sitting in Cork
Woman messaged friend she accused of rape: 'Drink is no excuse, you're dead to me'

The defendant, who is now 25 and was 23 at the time, has denied a charge of rape at the trial at the Central Criminal Court sitting in Cork. Picture: Eddie O'Hare

A woman who claimed she was raped in her bed by a friend, who she said had been like a brother to her, messaged him afterwards: “Drink is no excuse. You are dead to me.” 

This emerged at a Kerry rape trial which commenced at the Central Criminal Court sitting in Cork today before Ms Justice Mary Rose Gearty and a jury of seven men and five women.

The defendant, who is now 25 and was 23 at the time, denied a charge of rape. It is alleged that on June 10, 2018, he had sexual intercourse with the complainant without her consent. She was aged around 20.

Michael Bowman, defending, said the defence was that there was no sexual intercourse and that the defendant had performed oral sex on her with consent. The complainant said, “No, no, no, no, that is not how it went."

Vincent Heneghan, prosecuting, said in his opening of the case that the complainant was a 20-year-old college student at the time and was back in her home in Kerry working part-time for the summer of 2018.

Mr Heneghan said the accused was one of the best friends of the complainant’s brother and that the young men went out that night and came home in the early hours.

On the night of the alleged rape at her family home in Kerry, the woman said she had been a bit down that day as she had broken up with her boyfriend. She said that when her brother and friends arrived home, the defendant came up and sat on her bed.

“He said he was worried about me. I said I was OK. He went to hug me,” she said, adding that she hugged him before he left the room and she went to sleep.

“I woke up and (name) was behind me. His penis was in my vagina from behind. I just froze for a few minutes. I did not know what was happening  — trying to process it… He was going back and forth really slowly as if he did not want me to wake up. I pulled myself together and turned around and told him to get out of the room.

“He put his head on the pillow pretending to be asleep. I told him to get out of the room. It felt like time was stopped… I said get out of my fucking room. He got up and left,” she said.

The complainant believed that the defendant had told her brother that they had "shifted" and she got really angry at hearing that so she messaged him through Facebook Messenger.

She messaged: “What are you going around telling people we shifted when I woke up to you riding, you sick fuck.”

He replied that he was only messing when he told her brother they had shifted and he was not being serious in saying it. 

She texted, “Fuck you, you made a serious big fucking mistake.” 

He replied: “I am really fucking sorry, I am a retard, like. I am giving up the drink…” 

She messaged: “Drink is no fucking excuse. You are dead to me. And this is not going to be the end of this.”

She had screenshots of all of those messages and recalled another unrecorded one where she told him never to come back to her house. She said he did not ever come back.

The complainant also testified that when she was away at university before that summer, there was one weekend when her brother and the defendant visited and stayed with her at her apartment. She said when they were out queuing for a venue on one of the nights, the defendant tried to hold her hand but she did not. 

Later the defendant crashed out asleep on her bed. She felt too shy to say anything or to "ruin" the weekend so she slept on a beanbag.

The case continues.

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