Dear Dáithí: Out of the blue, my husband says he wants to have kids. What should I do? 

Nowadays, a 41-year-old woman or a 49-year-old man thinking about having their first child is seen as quite normal. However, that only matters if the people involved want to have one
Dear Dáithí: Out of the blue, my husband says he wants to have kids. What should I do? 

Dáithí Ó Sé: "From what you’ve described, it sounds like someone who was once happy dodging bullets… and now wants to put his own to use. For me, this whole letter revolves around one word: Fulfilment." Picture: Domnick Walsh.

My husband and I never had children. It just didn’t happen for us — we never really investigated it or tried alternative methods. Our attitude was always: What will be, will be. I’m 41 now, and my husband just turned 49.

Out of the blue, he said he feels like we might have made a mistake, and that we could be missing out by not experiencing parenthood. I was flabbergasted. We have lots of nieces and nephews, and friends with kids, and he’s always said how glad he is that we can send them home at the end of a visit. 

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