Never has so much been asked of parents

Since Covid-19 restrictions began, parents have phoned Parentline’s national helpline who never did so before.

Two-thirds of calls used to be from parents of teens and adult children — now 50% are from parents of primary school-aged children, says Parentline CEO Aileen Hickie.

“Busy working parents are ringing. They’re working from home and trying to implement a routine.

"They’re expected to be teacher, counsellor, physical education and arts/crafts coach, as well as chief cook and bottle-washer.

"Never before has so much been asked of parents.”

Parents’ current concerns for children span a wide spectrum — from worries about their isolation/loneliness and overuse of screens to the difficulty of getting a routine going and instilling compliance with social distancing limits.

“Parents have been forced into continuous communication with their children and they’re not used to it.

"They’re trying to keep them occupied and active.”

Hickie says children’s lives have changed utterly and they’re confused and unsure.

“Parents need to show children as much love and support as possible. It’s more important than ever to communicate with them.”

She recommends encouraging children to see this phase not as ‘wasted time’ but as an opportunity to do new things and to reconnect with family.

A mum of five — four teens, one younger — Hickie has introduced some new initiatives in her home.

“We have a ‘clean room competition’. Once a week I inspect bedrooms and there are money prizes for first, second and third.

"There has never been so much hoovering and cleaning and changing of bed sheets.

"First prize is €25, quite substantial, but for me it’s worth it.

"It’s inducting them into housework, occupying them and freeing me to do my work.”

Hickie emphasises the value of routine: up, washed and dressed for breakfast (no coming to the kitchen in pyjamas) and regular mealtimes.

Your child’s daily schedule should include time for exercise, for connecting with friends and for doing schoolwork.

“Parents should lead from the front. Let children see you’re busy. Don’t helicopter.

"With schoolwork, encourage them to do by themselves what they’re able to.”

Hickie says it’s important to remember that what matters, as always, is the ‘good enough’ parent.

Parentline offers support/information/guidance, is non-judgmental and confidential.

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