Sex advice: Partner’s over-attentiveness is off-putting

My partner and I went to couples therapy last year and in lots of ways it helped, but his nervousness about the relationship ending has made him excessively attentive. Before sex, he wants to light candles, put music on, and run me a bath. I know this is nice, but he’s trying so hard that it feels unnatural and off-putting.

It is difficult to identify the precise point at which attentiveness stops feeling loving and starts feeling creepy, but you clearly believe that your husband has passed that point. If you were happy with him, you would interpret his demonstrations of affection and attentiveness as thoughtful and romantic, but you are not entirely happy, are you?