Sex file: My sex toy makes him feel insecure

Aim to present sextoys as useful tools that are anon-threatening complement to your love life.

My new boyfriend recently found a sex toy of mine and is really intimidated by it. He’s worried he isn’t satisfying me now, which isn’t true (although maybe we could spice things up a bit). How can I reassure him? It’s making him reluctant to have sex.

Openness is a personality trait, but when it comes to sex toys, openness is also a product of familiarity. So younger men are typically less likely to be intimidated by them than older ones.