New partner appears reluctant to take things further

I’m a 45-year-old woman. I’m dating a man who is taking it really slowly. At first I thought it was lovely, but when we did make it to the bedroom we just kissed — although it was very apparent that he was aroused. The same has happened twice since. We just roll around and fumble, and when I try to move it farther he stops it.

Mon, 27 May, 2019 - 20:30

I’m a 45-year-old woman. I’m dating a man who is taking it really slowly. At first, I thought it was lovely, but when we did make it to the bedroom we just kissed — although it was very apparent that he was aroused. The same has happened twice since. We just roll around and fumble, and when I try to move it farther he stops it.

Although it is usually presented as a male responsibility, consent is a two-way process, so the next time you get to heavy petting, instead of awkwardly trying to “move it farther”, ask your new man whether he would like to have sex.