Sex advice: Yearning for a mindless quickie in a mindful world

Q: Lately, my partner has become devoted to mindfulness.  The latest idea is that he wants us to have ‘mindful sex’, which involves focusing on being present in the moment, deep breathing and looking into each other’s eyes. He gets a lot out of it, but I feel it turns sex into such an intense and ‘spiritual’ performance that I yearn for a simple quickie.

A: We really must be at peak mindfulness now.

It is touted as a magic bullet for everything from anxiety to arthritis, but despite what the apps and the websites tell you, it is not easy for everyone to master — and not everyone wants to master it.