My sex drive has fallen off a cliff

My wife and I have been happily married for 10 years, but recently it feels as though my sex drive has fallen off a cliff. I am only 45. Meanwhile, my wife still wants to have sex three times a week. I feel under pressure and I am worried she will have an affair. How are we going to work this out? I can’t see a way forward for us.

It’s unclear whether your central anxiety is losing your mojo or losing your wife, but either way, you need to calm down because fretting will make matters worse.

This may just be a blip. Libido naturally ebbs and flows in response to how well you feel, how stressed you are, how hard you are working, or how much sleep you are getting.