My partner is hung up about foreplay

I am 46 and my partner is 38. We have a great relationship in every way, with the exception of the bedroom — this has always been a problem.

She is prudish and hung up, whereas I am very open. She thinks that foreplay is overrated. I want to spice things up, but she seems to want to get sex over with as quickly as possible. How can a relationship like ours survive?

A lack of foreplay is usually high on the list of female sex gripes so your partner’s stance seems odd. However, men should never underestimate the complexity of the female relationship with orgasm.