Why do we always have to fight before sex?

I am 28 and I have been with my boyfriend for two years. We have great sex, but it normally follows an argument.

I am worried the chemistry between us is inauthentic. How can we get fired up for sex without shouting at each other first?

You are clearly worried by the possibility arguing has become a sexual trigger, but don’t get too hung up on that idea. Some couples thrive on the volatility that most others would find exhausting.