Is honesty the best policy in your relationship?
WHEN your partner leaves the room, do you pick up their phone and read their text messages? If they’ve left their emails open on their laptop, do you read them? One in four women and one in five men admit to looking at their partner’s messages and Facebook accounts. The study of 13,132 people, by security firm, Avast, found that few suspected infidelity — most were curious. Twelve percent thought their partners might be lying to them.
Being honest with our other half isn’t easy: so we spy rather than confront. It’s so common it doesn’t seem wrong. But deception in a relationship destroys intimacy. No-one is suggesting that honesty is always best. The white lie, to spare feelings, is an act of kindness. You are not morally obliged to divulge past ‘crimes’. If we shared every thought, few marriages would last a week.
