Infrequent sex in 10 years is unhealthy and will ruin marriage

* I love my husband, but in the past ten years we have had sex only on a handful of occasions.

The decline started when I became pregnant for the first time. I didn’t miss sex and my husband rarely complained, but he has begun to put a great deal of pressure on me to resume sex. I don’t feel I should be pressured, but I am also aware that I would feel betrayed if he sought sex elsewhere. Am I being selfish?

>> In a word, yes. When people get married, they sign a contract that is legally, socially, emotionally, physically and financially binding. Ten years without sex is a long time. There are couples who coexist in harmony despite having intermittent sex, but they tend to be excellent communicators, and their irregular erotic adventures are bolstered by a robust, day-to-day physical and emotional connection.