I no longer find my wife attractive now she’s a martyr mother

Q. I love my wife but she is no longer the woman I married.

Since having children she has become a “martyr mother” and gives all her attention to the children. I no longer view her as a sexual being and do not find her attractive, but she demands sex from me. Will this feeling ever change?

A. Martyr mothers are hard work. If you ask them how they are, they recount an exhausting list of after-school activities, domestic chores, play dates and doctors’ appointments, making it difficult not to conclude that their personal identity has been sucked into some child-centric vortex.