After an argument, my husband withholds affection and sex

Q. Every time my husband and I have an argument, or he doesn’t like what I’ve said or done, he withholds affection and sex.

I feel I am being punished, sometimes even for the smallest misdemeanour. I’ve tried talking about it, but he just brushes it off, saying he is tired or stressed. I don’t believe him.

A. Your sex life is a barometer of your relationship. When things are good between you, sex happens; when they are not, it’s a sexual Siberia.