My boyfriend won’t have sex with me because I’m pregnant

Q. I am 28 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend refuses to have sex with me because he is afraid it will damage the baby. I’ve told him there is no need to worry but he is adamant. What do you suggest? We are both in our early 30s.

A. With a normal pregnancy there is no reason why a couple shouldn’t have sexual intercourse. The foetus is cushioned in the womb by the fluid that surrounds it. The neck of the womb is tightly closed and provides a very firm barrier between it and the outside world. You are right , there is no need to worry. However, if there are contraindications, like a previous miscarriage, do seek medical advice.

As your partner’s fears are becoming an issue, it might be helpful for both of you to raise this concern when going for prenatal care.