Sex File: I can't give my girlfriend an orgasm, what can I do?

"The first thing you need to remember is that intercourse is not the best way to help a woman have an orgasm - it's a minority of women who climax through penetration alone"

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I consider myself very skilled in bed, but none of my failsafe moves are working on my new girlfriend. She hasn't had an orgasm since we got together and I've lost confidence. I don't know what to do.

This is a question I hear all the time from male readers. First, have you had a conversation with your partner? If she tells you she can have an orgasm alone but just finds it hard to have one with you, then you need to think about how you are approaching sex. Do you have what you believe to be "failsafe" moves - doing the same thing over and over again and hoping for the best?