Colman Noctor: Why a child's truth is the only one that matters

Speaking to people who 'have it all' over the years has taught me that what others think about you means nothing if you don’t believe it yourself

Self-confidence is how we project ourselves outwardly. It can be performative Picture: iStock 

I am always interested when parents tell me they wish their child was more confident. They typically explain that their child is a little shy or reserved when we explore it. They often describe how the child is struggling to assert themselves socially and at times lacking the ability or willingness to speak up for themselves. And while lacking confidence is undoubtedly a component of some children’s difficulties, my impression is there may also be issues with self-worth, which may need to be addressed first.

I explored the difference between self-confidence and self-esteem in a previous column. This week, I want to dive deeper into our children’s external and internal worlds.