Sex File: She says I'm too chatty in bed 

Focusing your attention on your senses helps you to be present in your body, not your mind

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I don't like the sound of silence - even in the bedroom. My girlfriend accuses me of being too 'chatty' when we make love and says this annoys her. Is it fair for her to ask me to change something so harmless?

While there is nothing particularly wrong with being talkative during sex, that it annoys your girlfriend is a problem. Relationships require give and take and when you persist with a behaviour that your partner dislikes you increase the risk of the relationship failing. Learning how to accommodate differences is a central challenge in any relationship and, sometimes, compromise is the only solution.