Sex File: How can I make my younger partner slow down in bed? 

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I am nearly 50 and have recently started dating a guy in his early 30s. The sex is great, but he just has so much energy. Sometimes I just want sex to be a bit slower. My friends are playing me the tiniest violins about this problem. But I would like things to change. What would you advise?

It sounds as though there are two issues here - one, that you find him too energetic, and two, that you are worried about putting him off if you mention it. Are you worried that raising it may highlight the age gap? While I can understand that anxiety, there is no point trying to pretend that the age difference between you doesn't exist. I'm sure he is as conscious of it as you are, but he is probably focusing on the positives.