Sex File: Both together or one at a time? 

"You simply can't be mindful of the sensations you are experiencing if you are concentrating on performing oral sex, and the same is true for your partner."

Do what feels good, not just what's expected of your and your partner

I can't believe that people really enjoy the so-called 69 position as much as so many claim to. I can't relax enough to orgasm while also focusing so much on my partner's pleasure. Is it a myth that everyone likes the soixante-neuf? Isn't taking it in turns more sensible?

The concept of 69 is great. You fit together like a human yin yang symbol and simultaneously experience the joy of oral sex. What could be better? Well, quite a lot actually. The reality is disappointing and most people will only try this position twice. The first attempt with curious optimism; the second to see if it was really that bad.