Dear Louise: 'I’m so jealous of my best friends and I feel I’m driving a wedge between us'

"So, firstly I would tell you not to be so hard on yourself. We are all a mixture of dark and light, of good and bad, and we must learn to be comfortable with our shadow selves."

Louise O'Neill, author. Photograph Moya Nolan

Hi Louise.  I am struggling with jealousy at the moment. I’m so jealous of my best friends and I feel I’m driving a wedge between us. 

I graduated from college a few years ago and I’m not where I want to be. I’m in a job I don’t like and that doesn’t pay well and I’m living in a house with strangers that doesn’t feel like home, and I feel I should be in a different place by now.