Relationships

My boyfriend wants a threesome, but I don’t

I didn’t mind indulging my boyfriend’s fantasies at first because they were not extreme and they were something we kept between the two of us

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Cruel irony of taking the contraceptive pill

I’m 25 and started going out with my boyfriend two years ago. Shortly after that I started taking the combined pill. Could it be to blame for my low libido?

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I hate it when my girlfriend asks for sex

I am uncomfortable about my girlfriend taking the lead in our sex life. We have great chemistry but I feel too much pressure if I’m taken by surprise. Is it unusual for a man to feel like this?

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My boyfriend talks dirty but I don’t like it

My new boyfriend is great but he constantly talks dirty during sex and I hate it. 

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Why long-term birth control offers greater protection than the pill

Young Irish women tend to to stick to traditional methods of birth control rather than using effective, long-term contraceptives that cut out the risk of forgetting to take a daily tablet, says Ailin Quinlan.

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I’d like a relationship but I don’t like sex

I’m a 24-year-old girl and have never been sexually attracted to anyone. However, I would like to experience a romance. 

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What is my husband thinking of during sex?

My husband always closes his eyes during sex. I feel this is because he needs to fantasise and I find it unsettling. Is it weird to feel jealous of his private thoughts?

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Why do we always have to fight before sex?

I am 28 and I have been with my boyfriend for two years. We have great sex, but it normally follows an argument.

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Is it normal to have high libido later in life?

I’ve always heard that women become less interested in sex as they get older, but I’m in my early 50s and my libido is higher than it was when I was in my 20s. 

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Can a vibrator improve your love life?

Q. My girlfriend wants to introduce a vibrator into our sex life. Do other couples use them during sex, and if so, why?

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Why it pays to work on your kissing technique

The intimacy of kissing creates a bond that can build a relationship, says Tanya Sweeney.

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Baby talk in the bedroom is a big no-no

When we are getting intimate, my boyfriend thinks it’s cute to talk to me in a child’s voice. 

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Research confirms - friendship brings more happiness than money

Loving relationships, not material gains, are key to contentment, say older people when looking back at high points of their lives, says Margaret Jennings.

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I can’t get over his one-night stand

Q. My husband recently broke down and admitted he had a one-night stand with another woman. I trust him when he says it was a horrible mistake. We have talked it all through and mentally I feel I can move on. However, I have since found it very difficult to be turned on by him. How can I get the attraction back?

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Maintenance sex is emotional investment

Q. When I first met my husband, we were both always ‘up for it’. But now I feel that I engage in ‘maintenance’ sex to please him, rather than because I want it myself. 

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Practice makes for perfect safe sex

I’m a recently divorced man in my early 50s. I never used condoms when I was younger, as my ex-wife was on the pill. 

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Dave Kenny embraces the growing popularity of man hugs

Irishmen shied away from any touching beyond a handshake for fear of homophobia, until politicians and Continentals normalised the man hug, says Dave Kenny.

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Using sex to fill emotional void not healthy

While extreme clinginess and sexual dependency might be mistaken for love and lust in the early stages of a new relationship, over time these behaviours are more accurately interpreted, advises Suzi Godson.

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Want men at your feet? Just wear high heels

Validation at last for bunions and dwindling bank balances... men really do find heels sexy, writes Deirdre Reynolds.

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Can you be a sex addict in a relationship?

I need to have sex every day, sometimes more than once. My girlfriend also has a high libido, but however much sex we have, it’s never enough.

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Compromise between mismatched libidos

My boyfriend and I are in our 20s and we have been together for six months now. 

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Karen O'Moore

No need for the rush sex with Tantra

WHILE the whole country is in a tizzy about, what to buy for Him or Her, there are those who are looking at what they can gift their relationship this festive season and for some Irish people – it’s tantric sex.

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Solo sex is good for your relationship

My wife recently admitted to me that she masturbates a few times a week. I was surprised that she does it at all, to be honest. We’re young and we have a healthy sex life — does that mean that I’m not satisfying her?

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Having different occupations outside the home can help relationships thrive

WE’RE told opposites attract but it is also true that having something in common with your partner is a vital component of a good relationship.

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Counselling can help you to help jealous wife

Ever since my wife lost her job she has become depressed and socially isolated. 

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Have you a male or a female brain?

Differences between male and female brains are hard to define, and may be due to either nature or nurture, or both.

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How do I subtly tell hubbie I want foreplay?

My husband has never been one for foreplay. Is it too late to change him without upsetting him, or making him think sex has been rubbish up until now?

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Quickies not on because of marathon man

My 33-year-old partner is able to maintain his erection for a long time. However, it can take him around 30 minutes to climax and ejaculate.

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