Relationships

Why does my girlfriend need to drink before we have sex?

My girlfriend always needs to have a few drinks before we have sex. She’s quite insecure in general and I think that must be why. 

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Why a growing number of people are having affairs

Klara loves her husband but he’s not interested in sex, so she found a lover online. Does her decision reflect a growing tolerance of affairs? Ailin Quinlan reports.

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Four dads tell us about their father-daughter relationship

Father’s Day approaches, we ask well-known dads about what makes the relationship with their daughters special.

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I’ve had the best sex ever after my divorce

My husband and I recently got divorced, following six years in which we didn’t have sex. I then met a boyfriend from my youth and we had the best sex ever. 

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I’m married but I’m attracted to younger women

I have been happily married for 30 years; I love my wife, but, recently, I have been attracted to younger women, in particular one 20-year-old who works in my office.

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Get over break-up with a new beginning

My long-term boyfriend and I split up six months ago and it’s been very cordial. 

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My partner is hung up about foreplay

I am 46 and my partner is 38. We have a great relationship in every way, with the exception of the bedroom — this has always been a problem.

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You can’t calculate intimacy with a quota

I’m 32 years old and my sex life with my girlfriend is brilliant, but friends in much longer-term relationships have warned me it will deplete over time, and become less exciting. Is it possible to stop this decline happening?

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Is a loving familial relationship more important than perceived normalcy?

Liz Dunphy explores current thinking on the concept of family and talks to an eminent researcher, a donor-conceived adult and a constitutional expert on the current family values.

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My girlfriend thinks I am faking orgasms

I am a male, aged 38, and I often have dry orgasms. My girlfriend thinks I’m faking it, which I’m not — I just don’t ejaculate. Is this normal? What happens when we want to have children?

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Since my wife left me I’ve lost my libido

Since my wife walked out on our 10-year marriage three years ago, I have completely lost any desire to have sex, even though I have been dating some very attractive women. 

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Sleeping positions reveal alot about our relationship

Like a relationship barometer, the variety of positions couples adopt in bed reveals their emotional closeness or distance, says Sharon Ní Chonchúir.

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Should I tell new partner about my STI?

I’m a 50-year old woman, recently single and I’ve started dating. I’ve used condoms, but somehow I have contracted HPV. 

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My boyfriend wants a threesome, but I don’t

I didn’t mind indulging my boyfriend’s fantasies at first because they were not extreme and they were something we kept between the two of us

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Cruel irony of taking the contraceptive pill

I’m 25 and started going out with my boyfriend two years ago. Shortly after that I started taking the combined pill. Could it be to blame for my low libido?

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I hate it when my girlfriend asks for sex

I am uncomfortable about my girlfriend taking the lead in our sex life. We have great chemistry but I feel too much pressure if I’m taken by surprise. Is it unusual for a man to feel like this?

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My boyfriend talks dirty but I don’t like it

My new boyfriend is great but he constantly talks dirty during sex and I hate it. 

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Why long-term birth control offers greater protection than the pill

Young Irish women tend to to stick to traditional methods of birth control rather than using effective, long-term contraceptives that cut out the risk of forgetting to take a daily tablet, says Ailin Quinlan.

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I’d like a relationship but I don’t like sex

I’m a 24-year-old girl and have never been sexually attracted to anyone. However, I would like to experience a romance. 

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What is my husband thinking of during sex?

My husband always closes his eyes during sex. I feel this is because he needs to fantasise and I find it unsettling. Is it weird to feel jealous of his private thoughts?

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Why do we always have to fight before sex?

I am 28 and I have been with my boyfriend for two years. We have great sex, but it normally follows an argument.

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Is it normal to have high libido later in life?

I’ve always heard that women become less interested in sex as they get older, but I’m in my early 50s and my libido is higher than it was when I was in my 20s. 

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Can a vibrator improve your love life?

Q. My girlfriend wants to introduce a vibrator into our sex life. Do other couples use them during sex, and if so, why?

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Why it pays to work on your kissing technique

The intimacy of kissing creates a bond that can build a relationship, says Tanya Sweeney.

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Baby talk in the bedroom is a big no-no

When we are getting intimate, my boyfriend thinks it’s cute to talk to me in a child’s voice. 

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Research confirms - friendship brings more happiness than money

Loving relationships, not material gains, are key to contentment, say older people when looking back at high points of their lives, says Margaret Jennings.

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I can’t get over his one-night stand

Q. My husband recently broke down and admitted he had a one-night stand with another woman. I trust him when he says it was a horrible mistake. We have talked it all through and mentally I feel I can move on. However, I have since found it very difficult to be turned on by him. How can I get the attraction back?

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