Bernard O'Shea: I played the compliment game, it costs nothing but it is invaluable

Curious about the power of compliments, I embarked on "The Compliment Game," going out of my way to compliment people every day.

Ever wondered how a few simple words can change someone's day? I did. In fact, I was so curious that I embarked on a bit of adventure I like to call "The Compliment Game." The rules are simple: give at least three genuine compliments a day. The results? Sometimes heartwarming, sometimes thoroughly embarrassing.

As someone who thrives on curiosity, I pondered compliments' impact. Could they really make a difference in someone's day? Could a genuine compliment change the trajectory of a conversation or even a relationship? And, more selfishly, could this little experiment make me happier, too? These questions led me to dive into the world of compliments, armed with nothing but a smile, hope, and a decent internet connection.

Let's sprinkle a little science on this fluffy cloud of niceness, shall we? Research from Harvard University shows that compliments can enhance social interactions and boost the giver's happiness. When you give a compliment, your brain releases dopamine. 

The same chemical makes you feel elated after a great workout or a delicious piece of chocolate cake. In other words, complimenting someone can give you a natural high minus the calories or the sweat. 

Note: I've also tried saying to myself repeatedly, "Well done on your morning work-out, Bernard", without actually doing it. This doesn't work. (I've the belly to prove it)

Studies suggest that compliments activate the same brain regions as receiving monetary rewards. So, when you tell your coworker their presentation was impressive, you're not just being kind. You're essentially giving them a mental cash bonus. No wonder people love compliments! Note: You cannot pay utility bills with compliments I've tried!

Complimenting isn't a modern concept. The ancient Greeks were masters of the art, often using compliments to sway opinions. In the court of Elizabeth I, a well-placed compliment could mean the difference between a thumbs up and exile. Fast forward to today, and we still use compliments to build relationships, boost morale, and navigate social landscapes.

In Ireland, compliments are often delivered with a side of humour and a dash of humility. It's not uncommon to hear, "Sure, you're not the worst!" which, believe it or not, is high praise.

If every there was a country that doesn’t do compliments its Ireland. Thus understanding the cultural context of compliments can make them even more effective and entertaining.

So, how does one play the Compliment Game?

Be Observant: Pay attention to the people around you. Notice something positive about them, whether it's their attire, work, or attitude.

Be Genuine: A compliment must be sincere. People can sniff out fake flattery quicker than you can say, "nice shoes."

Be Specific: Instead of saying, "You look nice," try, "That colour suits you." Specificity shows that you've genuinely noticed something.

Be Timely: Deliver your compliments at the right moment. Complimenting someone's punctuality when they arrive late might not go down well.

Be Humorous: If appropriate, add a touch of humour. A funny compliment can make the recipient laugh and feel good simultaneously.

Here’s my memorable and unmemorable moments from my week of playing the Compliment Game.

The Coffee Shop Encounter: At a petrol station coffee shop, I complimented the busy barista, "You made my coffee exactly how I like it! You know your stuff!" She smiled and offered me a free caramel waffle. Note to self: Always compliment baristas.

The Fragrant Forward: In a hotel lift with 4 other people, I asked out loud, "Someone is wearing an amazing perfume. What is it?" No one answered, and it was crippling and embarrassing, but you know what? I'd like to think someone was delighted, or else they thought I was an idiot.

The Grocery Gem: In the supermarket, I told my daughter, who accompanied me, that she was brilliant for helping me and that she was always so well-turned out. At the check, she said, "Dad, your system for packing (I use 3 separate bags for the freezer, fridge, and press) is a great idea." Up until that point, no one ever noticed.

The Family Affair: I told my eldest sister she is an amazing cook. Her reaction? She knew I was talking bulls**t, but she made me tea!

Remember compliments cost nothing but are invaluable. As Winnie the Pooh might say, "A compliment a day keeps the grumpy away."