Sex advice with Suzi Godson.

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My wife and I are in our fifties and she has just started using porn. She thinks it will enhance our sex life if we watch it together, but I find the idea a total turn-off.

I’m 30 and have been with my boyfriend for nearly two years.

Sex advice with Suzi Godson.

Sex advice with Suzi Godson

Sex advice with Suzi Godson.

Sex advice with Suzi Godson.

Sex advice with Suzi Godson.

I’m seeing a wonderful woman and we have a huge physical attraction.

I’m 29 and I have never had sex without a condom.

My boyfriend and I get on really well and have a great relationship in general. But he’s become more and more lazy with sex. He lies there and expects me to do all the work.

Sex advice with Suzi Godson.

Suzi Godson offers advice to the girlfriend of a man who likes to chat during foreplay and sex

Sex advice with Suzi Godson.

My husband of five years has, quite out of the blue, asked me to meet him in a bar and pretend I don’t know him. I assume the idea is that he seduces me, which is fine, I suppose. What worries me is that he might be unsatisfied with our sex life, or that he has tried this with someone else.

My wife and I are in our 40s and we are getting divorced, but we’re still having sex. I find it really confusing. Does it mean we should get back together?

My husband wants me to be a bit more vocal during sex. I’ve tried a couple of times but this is simply not my style. While I want my lovely husband to be happy, groaning and moaning during sex just don’t come naturally to me.

I’m in my early 40s and I’ve found that my orgasms are less intense than they used to be. My sex life with my husband is alive and well, so I don’t think that’s the issue. Is there anything I can do? Someone told me that using kegel balls will improve things. What do you think?

A few months ago I started going out with a great guy. The problem is, he thinks he’s fantastic in bed and is always making self congratulatory comments about it. But the truth is he’s not taking the time to get to know what I want, because he thinks he knows it all already.”

My wife of three years has started sleeping in the spare bedroom because she says that she sleeps so well there. I miss her, but I’m getting used to it. What I can’t get used to, however, is having sex and then tiptoeing back to my own room. We’re only 31 and it feels like a strange thing to be doing.

My new boyfriend has a cat. I often look up during sex and see it sitting, staring at me. It makes me instantly lose any focus. He thinks it’s funny and that I’m overreacting. We can’t lock it out of the room because then it scratches and meows and that’s even worse. How can I tune out?

My husband and I only have sex in the missionary position because it seems guaranteed to bring both of us to orgasm. I’m worried sometimes that we’re being lazy and not adventurous enough. Should we be spicing things up?

My girlfriend gets really embarrassed talking about sex. It means that if I ask her to do something a certain way, she gets offended and doesn’t want to have sex at all. What can I do?

My wife and I have been married for 12 years. Recently she has started suggesting that we try new things, such as bringing sex toys into the bedroom and trying new positions. I’ve heard this can be a sign that someone is having an affair — should I be worried?

My fiance and I realise with horror that we no longer kiss beyond a quick smack on the lips. We do have sex. I know we are still in love and we are very much attracted to one another. Is it normal for passionate snogging to disappear? Should I be worried?

My husband is continually surprised that I don’t feel like having sex very often, despite the fact that he does nothing to turn me on. If we try to talk about it, we end up in a blame game. How can I make it really clear that he needs to make an effort to have a good sex life?

I’m in my 40s, and I’ve started dating a man in his 20s. We’re having a wonderful time — but sadly not in bed. When we start to have sex there are no problems at all, but he quickly loses his erection during intercourse.

Suzi Godson has some advice if a lack of privacy is impacting your sex life.

My boyfriend of four years never says “I love you”. The only time he says it is when we’re having sex. He will almost always say it just before climax.

My new girlfriend is sexually adventurous. She always wants to try new things in bed and has even suggested going to a sex club together. I’d rather have a good intimate sex life without feeling as if I need to spice it up all the time, but I do really like her. Do I have to change to keep her?”

Is it really that bad to fake an orgasm? I’ve been married for 10 years, we have two children and I enjoy sex, but sometimes I fake an orgasm so the pressure is off. It doesn’t happen all the time and I don’t feel as if I’m missing out because I have orgasms on my own. I feel a bit guilty though. Is this a problem?

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My girlfriend keeps waking up in the middle of the night and wanting sex — it is great in theory, but it’s wearing me out. It used to be a rarity, but now it happens at least once a week. She seems able to get back to sleep quite easily, but I really struggle. I am exhausted.

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Six months ago I broke up with my long-term girlfriend. Since then I haven’t felt like having sex at all. How do I get my libido back?

My new girlfriend is fantastic in every way — apart from one. She uses really cutesy pet names for me in bed. I don’t want to embarrass her, but I find it so unsexy. It turns me off.

My new boyfriend is rather noisy in the bedroom. I find it mortifying that the neighbours can hear him so I’ve asked him to quieten down a little. He promised to rein it in but then seems to get carried away in the moment. It’s just so embarrassing for me.

Q: My husband is obsessed with his mobile phone and has it in his hand almost every waking moment. Recently things have become even worse and he picks it up as soon as we have finished having sex. He has even reached out to check it a few times during the act. I’m furious. How can I make him see that his behaviour is unreasonable?”

My partner boasts about our sex life with his friends, even when I’m sitting there right beside him. I find it mortifying and have asked him to stop, but he says it’s just “banter” and that I need to relax about it. I’ve noticed it has changed the way some people in our friendship group interact with me — especially some of the women. I would like our sex life to stay private. Am I wrong to react like this?

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