My husband of five years has, quite out of the blue, asked me to meet him in a bar and pretend I don’t know him. I assume the idea is that he seduces me, which is fine, I suppose. What worries me is that he might be unsatisfied with our sex life, or that he has tried this with someone else.
Wed, 10 Apr, 2019
My husband wants me to be a bit more vocal during sex. I’ve tried a couple of times but this is simply not my style. While I want my lovely husband to be happy, groaning and moaning during sex just don’t come naturally to me.
Mon, 11 Mar, 2019
I’m in my early 40s and I’ve found that my orgasms are less intense than they used to be. My sex life with my husband is alive and well, so I don’t think that’s the issue. Is there anything I can do? Someone told me that using kegel balls will improve things. What do you think?
Thu, 24 Jan, 2019
A few months ago I started going out with a great guy. The problem is, he thinks he’s fantastic in bed and is always making self congratulatory comments about it. But the truth is he’s not taking the time to get to know what I want, because he thinks he knows it all already.”
Fri, 11 Jan, 2019
My wife of three years has started sleeping in the spare bedroom because she says that she sleeps so well there. I miss her, but I’m getting used to it. What I can’t get used to, however, is having sex and then tiptoeing back to my own room. We’re only 31 and it feels like a strange thing to be doing.
Fri, 16 Nov, 2018
My new boyfriend has a cat. I often look up during sex and see it sitting, staring at me. It makes me instantly lose any focus. He thinks it’s funny and that I’m overreacting. We can’t lock it out of the room because then it scratches and meows and that’s even worse. How can I tune out?
Fri, 09 Nov, 2018
My husband and I only have sex in the missionary position because it seems guaranteed to bring both of us to orgasm. I’m worried sometimes that we’re being lazy and not adventurous enough. Should we be spicing things up?
Fri, 26 Oct, 2018
My husband is continually surprised that I don’t feel like having sex very often, despite the fact that he does nothing to turn me on. If we try to talk about it, we end up in a blame game. How can I make it really clear that he needs to make an effort to have a good sex life?
Fri, 21 Sep, 2018
I’m in my 40s, and I’ve started dating a man in his 20s. We’re having a wonderful time — but sadly not in bed. When we start to have sex there are no problems at all, but he quickly loses his erection during intercourse.
Fri, 14 Sep, 2018
Is it really that bad to fake an orgasm? I’ve been married for 10 years, we have two children and I enjoy sex, but sometimes I fake an orgasm so the pressure is off. It doesn’t happen all the time and I don’t feel as if I’m missing out because I have orgasms on my own. I feel a bit guilty though. Is this a problem?
Fri, 03 Aug, 2018
Fri, 12 Jan, 2018
My new boyfriend is rather noisy in the bedroom. I find it mortifying that the neighbours can hear him so I’ve asked him to quieten down a little. He promised to rein it in but then seems to get carried away in the moment. It’s just so embarrassing for me.
Fri, 15 Dec, 2017
My partner boasts about our sex life with his friends, even when I’m sitting there right beside him. I find it mortifying and have asked him to stop, but he says it’s just “banter” and that I need to relax about it. I’ve noticed it has changed the way some people in our friendship group interact with me — especially some of the women. I would like our sex life to stay private. Am I wrong to react like this?
Fri, 24 Nov, 2017
Fri, 10 Nov, 2017
Fri, 03 Nov, 2017