Jail for man for rape of nephew

A man has been jailed for six years for raping and sexually abusing his nephew who was later shunned by his entire family.

The victim suffered repeated abuse including oral rape and molestation until the age of 11. His uncle was aged 15 to 23 at the time.

The victim told the Central Criminal Court that his first memory was of his uncle taking his hand and leading him away to be abused. Later, the uncle told the boy that he was the only one who loved him and that there was no point in telling his parents because they did not love him and wouldn’t care.

In an emotional victim impact statement, the now 32-year-old victim said the abuse had haunted him since and torn his family apart, while he watched the accused get on with his life.

“When I was being shunned by my entire family, he was talking to the gardaí and going home and writing his wedding invitations,” he told Ms Justice Isobel Kennedy. “When I was popping anti- depressants, he was popping down the aisle.

“He’s a lying, sick, twisted, manipulative monster.”

The victim said he decided to go to the gardaí four years ago when he had a child of his own and could not bear the thought of anything similar happening to her.

The man said he lost his entire family due to “lies, deceit, cover-ups, and differences of opinion”. He told how he got a text from his mother saying she was sad to hear what happened to him but “there were others to think of”. He said his brother initially supported him but changed his mind after speaking with their mother.

The court heard the accused abused the boy by the Christmas tree and this became “a yearly tradition”. The victim said the abuse would occur “whenever he got the chance”.

“I wanted to die so much I would beg god every night to take me in my sleep and when I would awake in the morning I would curse him for not. I was 11 years old,” he said.

Ms Justice Kennedy imposed an eight-year sentence with the final two suspended. She said the accused breached a position of trust and that the victim had suffered enormously.

She took into account mitigating factors such as his remorse, his age at the time, and his good work history.

The 42-year-old pleaded guilty to one count of oral rape, two of sexual assault, and one of indecent assault at two Limerick locations between 1989 and 1996.

The man, who has no previous convictions, said he was bullied in school and was sexually abused when he was 14. He is married and has one child.


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