Apparently there’s still a stigma attached to being a stay-at-home dad – we ask one what it’s like

While being a stay-at-home dad is more accepted now than ever before, it’s still not an easy option.

A new survey from Linkedin has found 25% of men believe there’s a stigma attached to men looking after children, and the Fatherhood Institute says that while in the early 1990s, 6-7% of fathers were full-time home-dads, by 2014 only 3.8% of at-home parents were male.

“The population of home-dads is not booming. Like the number of mothers-of-preschoolers staying home full-time, it is very probably in decline,” says the Fatherhood Institute, which suggests the best way to reduce the stigma is to normalise and support involved fatherhood.

So, what’s life as a full-time dad like? We asked John Adams, 43, who lives with his wife Gill and daughters Helen, 10, and Izzy, 6, on the Kent/Surrey borders, and as well as being a stay-at-home dad, also writes the fatherhood and parenting blog DadblogUK.

Why did you become a stay-at-home dad?

Full-time dad John Adams (Ania Wilk-Lawton/PA)

“I left full-time employment in public relations and communications to become the main carer for our daughter, Helen, in 2011 when she was about 18-months-old. At first, I took on a part-time job, but we had a second daughter, Izzy, in 2012. It wasn’t that long afterwards that Helen started school, and trying to balance my family’s needs with a part-time job became too much. So, I left the workforce altogether.

“Thinking back to 2011, my wife worked full-time and Helen was in nursery five days a week. We missed a couple of milestones – first steps, that kind of thing. We thought Helen needed more parental attention. It was a very practical, unemotional decision. My wife had more earning potential and so I volunteered to concentrate on family and home. It works for us as a family and we wouldn’t want it any other way.

View this post on Instagram

Happy birthday to my big boy... The most amazing character and smile.. I love you little man @cruzbeckham

A post shared by David Beckham (@davidbeckham) on

Do you enjoy being a stay-at-home dad?

“I love being the main carer for my kids. I can’t imagine our family working any other way. I’m very fortunate to have seen so much of my kids’ lives in their formative years. Very few men get to experience this.

“That said, looking after children is demanding. It has its tough moments and it can be very tiring. I like to joke that it’s me who has a proper job and not my wife.”

- Press Association

More on this topic

Could Madhmoon spoil Ballydoyle’s Derby party?

Airtricity League wrap: 10-man Bohs suffer late defeat

Rylan Clark-Neal condemns May resignation for ‘taking shine off’ Spice Girls gig

Barcelona hoping to banish Champions League nightmare with domestic double

More in this Section

H&M has announced its latest incredible designer collaboration – and it goes on sale tomorrow

Ask an expert: What’s the best way to quickly potty train my toddler?

Album review: Flying Lotus - Flamagra

Special delivery: Rare postbox among items at Sheppard’s auction


Latest Showbiz

Theresa May impersonator strips off during BGT audition

Mel B hopes sound ‘will be much better’ for next Spice Girls concert

Max George considering children with new girlfriend Stacey Giggs

Spice Girls dazzle in Dublin as first arena tour in a decade kicks off

More From The Irish Examiner