Mum's the Word: Non-resolutions can be just as important at this time of year

Mum's the Word: Non-resolutions can be just as important at this time of year

Each year I toy with the idea of making New Year resolutions for the next 12 months but I always decide against them. I feel honestly that I won’t keep to them and I just don’t want to disappoint myself.

I know there are things I can improve on, such as increased exercise, less wine and see friends more, but writing down a list of ‘resolutions’ at the beginning of a year just doesn’t sit well with me.

I put it to my followers on Instagram and the majority seem to feel the same way. Most said that, no, they don’t make resolutions but some said that, yes they do make a list and put it on their fridge and as the year progresses, they cross of the things they feel that they have changed successfully.

Another follower from whom I get great inspiration said that instead of a ‘to do’ list they choose one word that they will remind themselves of across the year to inspire positive change. She picked the world ‘less’ last year in order to buy less, buy better and reuse what she has and it worked. I loved the idea.

So instead of a straight-up list for me this year, I am going to choose a few things to aim for, in order to bring excitement and new memories into our family fold for 2020.

First up is travel. My hubby and I were pretty good at this before we became parents but since my daughter Joan has arrived we have really been limited to our annual trip to Canada (which is amazing) and a few European hops in the past eight years.

But I feel she is at an age now where by she would benefit so much from travelling. She would gain such valuable experiences exploring other places and cultures and trying new foods.

We just have to be smart about it and learn to look out for flight and accommodation deals. I really feel so strongly that we have an amazing opportunity being on Europe’s doorstep and there are any number of remarkable places for us to enjoy as a family in 2020 without breaking the bank.

The whole process of travelling is great for kids too to teach them so many other life skills, like looking after their own things, being patient as things don’t always go to plan and compromise so that all members of the family get to pick places to go and things to see.

Next up is doing the less ordinary. Instead of coming home from school each day I want to pick a few days a month when Joan and I will have an experience.

By this I mean we zip into town and visit the National Museum or the Science Gallery. Or we go bowling, try pottery or go trampolining! We don’t need to spend hours and hours in these places, just a little while.

As lets face it when she is older she will remember these adventures instead of the multiple times we went straight home, did homework, had dinner and watched TV.

We have done this a few times across the year — just said to hell with it, who cares that it’s a school night and we go somewhere nice for dinner, the cinema or a hike somewhere. And this is the stuff memories are made of.

The third item on my non-resolution list is reading. That includes both myself and Joan, we both need to get better at choosing to pick up a book instead of our tablets.

I fully realise you have to lead by example as the parent in this situation and I am willing to do it!

Reading was something I did so much of when I was in my 20s and early 30s, so now is the time to revive this most enjoyable pastime.

And to open up the millions of incredible imaginary worlds and tales to Joan’s mind. Again she is at an age where there are lots of stories we can both enjoy together.

So there you have it, if you are making resolutions, good luck and if you aren’t, you are going to rock 2020 anyway! Happy New Year to all.

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