I am really, really proud of my daughter Joan. I think she is the kindest and one of the most considerate kids I’ve ever known.
When she started in school the teacher said to us: “If anyone gets hurt or needs help Joan is always the first person by their side.”
Throughout the years since reception class and now into 2nd class all of our parent-teacher meetings have started the same way, with the teacher saying about Joan: “She is just the kindest girl.” And every time I feel my heart burst.
When we are out on playdates or hanging around the school it is often said by other parents how sweet and thoughtful Joan is. Again if someone tumbles she rushes to help them up and she is obsessed with all the younger siblings and always play chasing them or hugging them and has more patience than I do. She is empathetic too and often thinking of ways to make her friends feel better or to feel good.
We talked about this a lot when she was younger — about how certain things can make us feel certain ways. And how we can help others to feel better if we understand where their feelings are coming from.
She is gentle. Afterfour years of being at her creche, when she had her little goodbye party one of the girls who had worked there since Joan was 13 months old said that not once did Joan hit another child or start a fight.
That made both my husband I so proud.
She doesn’t say nasty things. I once had a kid tell me it was “none of my business” when I asked what they were doing and I just stood there looking dumb. It wasn’t the worst thing that could be said, I know, but it just stunned me a little bit as Joan has never said that to me.
Now at this point, you are thinking this lady lives in la-la land and all kids are little jerks from time to time and this is all very true.
Joan can be awkward and difficult. She is very determined and that means sometimes not going with the flow when friends want to do one thing and she wants something else.
She is persistent in not letting an idea or want to go. She is highly repetitive when she wants something and wears us out with constant requests for things. I could go on, but worry she might read this one day!
But all of what I have written above is all very true too and I want to be able to say it here and to other people without seeming like I am bragging because I am just so proud of Joan for all these amazing qualities she has.
It is a funny thing with being a parent — we want to holler from the mountain tops about how amazing our kids are but something stops a lot of us from doing it for fear of bragging.
I am not sure I know the way around this but I do think we should be able to express our pride without seeming arrogant or conceited.
I am a hundred per cent sure there have been times when I am talking about Joan that someone has rolled their eyes internally at what I am saying.
I am also sure I have done the same myself at some point.
So I wish we could all make a virtual handshake to say, its okay that we talk about how amazing our kids are and even if you don’t believe me, just hear me out!
Because kids are amazing and they daily will surprise us with the good things they do and say.