Róisín Ingle opens up about her abortion; 'I know what I did was right for me'

Columnist Róisín Ingle has opened up about having an abortion, saying it was the right decision for her.

In her column in today's Irish Times Roisin, who has written about every aspect of her life in her column, explains it was the one "thing I’ve never written about. This unwritten Experience."

In today's article and in a follow-up interview with marian Finucane on RTE radio, she talks about having an abortion in her late 20s, saying: "Around 15 years ago, when I was in my late 20s, I became one of those women when I got pregnant and didn’t want to be.

She tells how for years she stopped herself writing about it "because of what other people might think".

Róisín Ingle opens up about her abortion; 'I know what I did was right for me'

She wrote: "Was I ashamed of it? No. Was I embarrassed? Not at all. Did I feel I’d done something wrong? Quite the opposite. What I had done was the right decision for me."

So she came to the conclusion that not to write about it was "completely against the spirit of my column".

She tells how at the time she was "in self-loathing mode. Going out too much. Drinking too much" after a relationship of five years had finished.

Then, she had a one-night stand and found out afterwards she was pregnant.

"I did not want a baby but I did know exactly what I wanted to do. I knew my own mind. I knew what was good for me."

So, she met the man she slept with again and they talked about their options. The upshot of that meeting was that they both knew they weren't ready to look after a baby, so he gave her half of the money needed to travel to London with a friend and have an abortion.

She said: "When I did get pregnant years later I knew I was ready. I knew what was right for me at that time was to carry on with the pregnancy to a hopefully happy conclusion.

"But having a baby that first time would not have been best for me. I have not had one scrap of regret or shame about what I did."

Ingle said it was time to hear personal stories in the abortion conversation after lots of personal stories were shared during the same sex marriage referendum.

She said: "I want to be a part, however small, of the campaign to change abortion legislation in this country."

She understands that the issue of abortion is a difficult one for people.

She said: "I know smoke will be coming out of peoples’ ears - I know what I did was right for me.

"I know not everyone who reads this will agree. I also know my mother is right when she says I might lose or alienate readers now that I have "come out" about my abortion.

"But sometimes in life you have to step up. In my life this is one of those times."


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