Ask Louise: 'My adult parents seem to really hate each other'

Ask Louise: 'My adult parents seem to really hate each other'

Q: My adult parents, who are in their late 50s, seem to really hate each other yet have no intention of separating. Most days they barely acknowledge one another. ...

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Louise O'Neill: 'When I look at how difficult it is for a rape victim to even get a case to court, I wonder if our legal system is fit for purpose in 2020'

Louise O'Neill: 'When I look at how difficult it is for a rape victim to even get a case to court, I wonder if our legal system is fit for purpose in 2020'

I often think about a conversation I had with a barrister a few years ago. She was an impressive sight, in her gown and wig, her high heels click-clacking on the ...

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Louise O'Neill: 'It doesn’t matter if a young girl is saying yes. It’s an adult man’s job to say no'This story is enriched with multi-media content

Louise O'Neill: 'It doesn’t matter if a young girl is saying yes. It’s an adult man’s job to say no'

I’m not on Twitter anymore and given everything I’ve heard about the site since - the viciousness, the constant outrage and in-fighting - I haven’t ...

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Louise O'Neill: 'Growing up as a white child in a predominantly white environment, race wasn’t something I gave much thought to'

Louise O'Neill: 'Growing up as a white child in a predominantly white environment, race wasn’t something I gave much thought to'

As white people have been forced to acknowledged the ugly truth of white supremacy, I have found myself wondering if this is how men felt during the #MeToo movement. ...

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Louise O'Neill on JK Rowling: 'Is this how we are going to define women from now on?'

Louise O'Neill on JK Rowling: 'Is this how we are going to define women from now on?'

This has not been a good week for Harry Potter fans.

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Dear Louise: 'This is the first girl I've liked so it's all new to me'This story is enriched with multi-media content

Dear Louise: 'This is the first girl I've liked so it's all new to me'

I have fallen for one of my friends and I am extremely confused! This is the first girl I’ve liked so it’s all new for me, and it’s the same for ...

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Louise O'Neill: 'Imagine if we'd been put into lockdown in the 90s'This story is enriched with multi-media content

Louise O'Neill: 'Imagine if we'd been put into lockdown in the 90s'

AT THE beginning of all of this — you know, society burning to the ground — I reminded myself how fortunate we were that this pandemic had happened in ...

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Louise O'Neill: How I improved my efforts to become more sustainable

Louise O'Neill: How I improved my efforts to become more sustainable

Louise O'Neill says she doesn't remember anyone talking about global warming when she was a child

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Louise O'Neill: 'I don’t know what I will do with my own diaries'

Louise O'Neill: 'I don’t know what I will do with my own diaries'

"Are you keeping records of the emails and texts you’re getting, the thoughts you’re having, the way your hearts and minds are reacting to this strange ...

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Louise O'Neill: What does praise of Adele’s ‘new’ body say to young women today?

Louise O'Neill: What does praise of Adele’s ‘new’ body say to young women today?

When are we going to accept that a woman is worth more than a number on her scales?

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Louise O'Neill: Loss has been made even more difficult nowThis story is enriched with multi-media content

Louise O'Neill: Loss has been made even more difficult now

My granduncle Donie died this week. He was my grandmother’s younger brother, a kind, gentle man who had been unwell for quite some time.

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Dear Louise: My boyfriend broke up with me because of the Covid-19 restrictions

Dear Louise: My boyfriend broke up with me because of the Covid-19 restrictions

While there’s never a perfect time to go through something like this, breaking up in the middle of a global pandemic has to rank amongst the worst.

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Louise O'Neill: 'I was curious this week about when I had first heard the word coronavirus'

Louise O'Neill: 'I was curious this week about when I had first heard the word coronavirus'

When the initial lockdown was announced, I felt calm at first.

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Louise O'Neill: Are we turning to pandemic art for relief?This story is enriched with multi-media content

Louise O'Neill: Are we turning to pandemic art for relief?

At the start of this year, I was clearing out my writing room when I found a tattered piece of A-4 paper.

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Louise O'Neill: This must be an extraordinarily difficult time for anyone dealing with an eating disorderThis story is enriched with multi-media content

Louise O'Neill: This must be an extraordinarily difficult time for anyone dealing with an eating disorder

I’ve seen a lot of talk online about food recently, people bemoaning their tendency to overeat, whether out of boredom or to silence that ever-present sense ...

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Dear Louise: I had my bulimia under control. But the demon has returned

Dear Louise: I had my bulimia under control. But the demon has returned

I lead a very busy life — I’m a mature student in college — and I separated from my partner but the separation was my decision. I hate myself when ...

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Louise O'Neill: We will all find unique ways to survive

Louise O'Neill: We will all find unique ways to survive

If there was ever a good moment to lower our expectations and give ourselves a break, this would be it, writes Louise O'Neill

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Louise O'Neill: There is so much fear in the air and it is difficult not to internalise itThis story is enriched with multi-media content

Louise O'Neill: There is so much fear in the air and it is difficult not to internalise it

I hadn’t written in my diary since February 29 and re-reading that entry was like falling down a portal into another world, another lifetime, writes Louise ...

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Louise O'Neill: Of motherhood and personhoodThis story is enriched with multi-media content

Louise O'Neill: Of motherhood and personhood

But she wasn’t consumed by us either. I knew that she was her own person, that she had autonomy outside of her role as our mother. She would sign my birthday ...

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Louise O'Neill: hospitality in the land of Céad Míle Fáilte

Louise O'Neill: hospitality in the land of Céad Míle Fáilte

A friend of mine, J, lives in LA and although we text and phone regularly, we realised recently that we hadn’t seen each other in the flesh since the summer ...

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Dear Louise: My partner of five years doesn't love me but we still live together

Dear Louise: My partner of five years doesn't love me but we still live together

He says that he doesn’t want to lie about his feelings. He doesn’t pay compliments but I wonder is this normal? Is saying he loves me that important? ...

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Louise O'Neill: 'Writing a novel is like being lost in a forest. You can never know how long it will take to see the light'This story is enriched with multi-media content

Louise O'Neill: 'Writing a novel is like being lost in a forest. You can never know how long it will take to see the light'

I’m at the Tyrone Guthrie centre in Annaghmakerrig again, starting work on a new ‘New Novel’.

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Louise O'Neill: Leap Day, proposals, and unpacking expectationsThis story is enriched with multi-media content

Louise O'Neill: Leap Day, proposals, and unpacking expectations

Of course, as 2020 is a Leap Year and today is February 29 which means… drum roll please… that women are ‘allowed’ to get down on one knee ...

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Louise O'Neill: To solely blame tabloids for Caroline Flack's death absolves the rest of us of responsibility

Louise O'Neill: To solely blame tabloids for Caroline Flack's death absolves the rest of us of responsibility

We will pay lip service to the importance of mental health while continuing to contribute to a culture that actively harms people struggling with mental health issues ...

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Louise O'Neill: What mattered was you were special enough to warrant sending a ValentineThis story is enriched with multi-media content

Louise O'Neill: What mattered was you were special enough to warrant sending a Valentine

There are certain things I remember about when my parents would go out for the night together. A pair of silk trousers my mother had, the floral scent of her Anais ...

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Louise O'Neill: Marian Keyes is a national treasure and we are lucky to have her

Louise O'Neill: Marian Keyes is a national treasure and we are lucky to have her

Louise O'Neill writes about her love for Irish author Marian Keyes

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Louise O'Neill: The irony of getting sick at Lourdes, the place most people go to for healing, is not lost on me

Louise O'Neill: The irony of getting sick at Lourdes, the place most people go to for healing, is not lost on me

It was my grandmother’s anniversary this week. I keep looking at the calendar, remembering the same date last year.

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Dear Louise: I don't have any close female friends

Dear Louise: I don't have any close female friends

I am in my mid-30s and female. I don’t have any close female friends.I don’t know why I can’t maintain close female friendships. Is there something ...

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Louise O'Neill: It was as if I was learning to ride a bike for the first time, I needed the stabiliser wheels still attached before I was ready to let go

Louise O'Neill: It was as if I was learning to ride a bike for the first time, I needed the stabiliser wheels still attached before I was ready to let go

As a child, I had certain ideas about what life would be like as an adult and most of those were derived from movies.

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Louise O'Neill: 'It is depressing to see the media want to silence Meghan Markle'

Louise O'Neill: 'It is depressing to see the media want to silence Meghan Markle'

It’s the story everyone is talking about.

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Louise O'Neill: 'Give yourself the pep talk you'd give a child'

Louise O'Neill: 'Give yourself the pep talk you'd give a child'

I was at FemFest recently, a conference organised by the National Women’s Council of Ireland for young women between the ages of 16 and 25.

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Louise O'Neill: I'm going to look back and focus on the things I did achieve

Louise O'Neill: I'm going to look back and focus on the things I did achieve

The week between Christmas and New Year’s Eve is a strange one.

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Louise O’Neill: The empty seat at the table becomes more apparent when everything else remains the same

Louise O’Neill: The empty seat at the table becomes more apparent when everything else remains the same

I estimate that this is the fourth Christmas column I’ve written for the Irish Examiner, and while I haven’t looked back at the others, I have a sneaking ...

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Louise O'Neill: We must teach teenagers to have awareness around pornThis story is enriched with multi-media content

Louise O'Neill: We must teach teenagers to have awareness around porn

In December 2018, I spoke at an event in Tralee which celebrated young women in modern Ireland.

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Louise O'Neill: We want to be conscientious consumers, but we still want our lives to be easy

Louise O'Neill: We want to be conscientious consumers, but we still want our lives to be easy

In November, I took my partner to New Orleans to celebrate his 30th birthday – yes, you’re right, I am a great girlfriend! Thank you for saying so, writes ...

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Louise O'Neill: All the things I need to go about the world as a fully functioning adult

Louise O'Neill: All the things I need to go about the world as a fully functioning adult

I’d be ecstatic if I was ever asked to contribute to What I Can’t Live Without but since it hasn’t happened thus far, I’m going to take advantage ...

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Once I decided life was something to be valued, I became afraid of death

Once I decided life was something to be valued, I became afraid of death

As someone who doesn’t do well with uncertainty, I have visited many psychics over the years.

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Millennials, contrary to their reputation of being lazy, have become the Burnout Generation

Millennials, contrary to their reputation of being lazy, have become the Burnout Generation

Since I have started writing full time, I have not been very good at taking holidays.

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I have tried to adopt a policy that food is morally neutral. It is neither good nor bad

I have tried to adopt a policy that food is morally neutral. It is neither good nor bad

When I first started dating my boyfriend, I didn’t want a relationship. I was in the early stages of recovery, which was and continues to be the foremost priority ...

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'Most people in my life readily accepted my stance on remaining childfree… until I had a serious relationship'

'Most people in my life readily accepted my stance on remaining childfree… until I had a serious relationship'

It was as if everyone assumed that my decision wasn’t actually my decision, but something forced upon me by outside circumstances — ie, not having a ...

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When the darkness falls and I’m alone in the house, I am what the kids might call a scaredy-cat

When the darkness falls and I’m alone in the house, I am what the kids might call a scaredy-cat

Since we’re fast approaching Halloween and we’re all friends here, I have a confession to make. Dramatic pause — I believe in witches.

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That’s what happens when someone dies; they become a collection of stories, a handful of photos

That’s what happens when someone dies; they become a collection of stories, a handful of photos

There's a story in my family that goes like this. One time, before I was born, my parents went to America, leaving my sister Over Home in my grandparents’ ...

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'Are we becoming more malicious? Or is there something about a screen that makes us braver?'

'Are we becoming more malicious? Or is there something about a screen that makes us braver?'

A few weeks ago, the Guardian’s beauty columnist Sali Hughes posted a video where she outlined the months of systematic bullying she had been subjected to ...

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'Today, I feel empowered because I know that I am the only person who can change my own life'

'Today, I feel empowered because I know that I am the only person who can change my own life'

I want to create a space in the pages of this magazine for radical honesty and self- acceptance, for compassion and empathy.

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'The ‘secret’ to finishing a novel can be found in two words - patience and consistency'

'The ‘secret’ to finishing a novel can be found in two words - patience and consistency'

I have to sit down every day at my desk and put the hours in, whether I feel like it or not, the same as any other job

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'My fondest memories as a child is a stack of books under the Christmas tree'

'My fondest memories as a child is a stack of books under the Christmas tree'

People never buy me books as presents. (They never allow me to join their book clubs either, which is a story for another day. I hope it’s because they think ...

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'I used to have fun, in my old life'

'I used to have fun, in my old life'

I used to have fun, in my old life.

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All I ever needed to do was to love and accept myself

All I ever needed to do was to love and accept myself

A few months ago, I ran into someone who hadn’t been particularly kind to me in school. You fantasise about those moments, don’t you?

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I keep a list of regrets, and sometimes when I can’t sleep, I count them late at night, like sheep

I keep a list of regrets, and sometimes when I can’t sleep, I count them late at night, like sheep

My uncle married my aunt-in-law when I was very young. I was six and a half. The half is important when you’re that age.

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